If you are experiencing domestic abuse, including violence, you would be safest out of the situation and there is a lot of support available to help you with this. It is not always possible to think clearly when you are experiencing an incident of domestic abuse. The following advice can help you plan ahead and help keep you safe.

If you’re living with your partner

If you’re living with your partner and have experienced domestic abuse previously, there are steps you can take to help keep you safe.

Plan ahead of incidents

  • Make a plan for your safety
  • Arrange to have a place to go
  • Have your own copies of important papers
  • Have important phone numbers available
  • Keep an overnight bag ready
  • Put aside money and spare keys
  • Consider keeping important possessions at a friend’s house
  • Agree a code word or action with a trusted friend to alert them when you’re in danger
  • Think about talking to your neighbours

During an incident

  • Get out if you can
  • Call for help or phone 999

If you can’t leave the situation

  • Avoid rooms with only one exit
  • Avoid the kitchen, bathroom and garage if possible
  • Call for help or phone 999

If you’re living alone

  • Change locks, secure doors and windows
  • Change your phone numbers
  • Seek legal advice
  • Notify trusted friends and family

If you’ve left

  • Inform your work and children’s school and/or nursery if appropriate
  • Change your daily routine
  • Plan ahead for unexpected contact with your abuser